The Day Everything Changed  

My life got turned upside down at 27 years old. Out of nowhere, I found myself bleeding 20 times a day, losing weight fast and becoming so ill I could hardly move. I was just a few days away from death and there was no choice but to perform an emergency life saving operation. I would be left with an ileostomy bag, something I had never even heard of. Just a few months before this I was performing on a packed out West End stage. The whole ordeal was a massive shock and a difficult time that went on for several years. It was traumatic and I suffered so much through this time. But I was alive. I can not thank St Marks hospital enough for saving my life. They saved my life and for that I am eternally grateful.

Even though this time was traumatic, it was the making of me. Sometimes it needs a time of real hardship to set you on your true path in life. It was during this time that I developed the most as a person.

The only way I could get through the adversity and get my life back was to dig deep and develop inner skills like never before. I turned to personal development to help get me through. I read over 60+ books and cultivated all the internal skills or resilience, courage, persistence and bravery. The lessons I learnt in these darkest moments have helped make me the coach I am today. 

I Needed To Get My Life Back 

The hospital ordeal went on much longer than expected. It ended up being 4 years of countless operations to get me fully back on track.

I came out of St Marks Hospital at 31 years old, barely been able to walk and was starting from zero. I had no career, no money, no partner and was left with an ileostomy bag for the rest of my life. 

The physical recovery was difficult but it was the psychological and emotional recovery that was the real challenge. I had to work on myself. I had to go through the dark places of 'why did this happen to me?' I knew I had to dig deep to get my life back.

Before my illness I was a singer, and singing had been my life up until then. I was too ill to sing on stage ever again, so I knew I had to mourn the past career that I couldn't return to.

From talking to friends about my experience through my health journey, I realised that my insights were helping and inspiring others. All the years of hardship had cultivated some tough lessons and deep wisdom within me. Sharing this wisdom was the start of a new chapter. I began the journey of learning about business, marketing and coaching all for the first time. This was the real start of my life as a coach.

Starting The Journey

As soon as I started coaching, I knew it was for me. All the years of my health battle had ignited so many skills within me which were helping me to inspire and help others in a profound way. It was at this point that I starting seeing how much all those times of adversity had helped shape who I was. I became grateful for those difficult times and saw it as my superpower to help others.

Within 7 months I was fully booked as a coach and coaching Grammy Winning Legends such as Boy George. Coaching Boy George at Wembley arena and on the Graham Norton Show were highlights for me that I will always cherish.

I had got my life back on track, but something felt off. This whole time I was hiding my true authentic self. I had so much shame around my health struggles and living with an ileostomy bag, that I had only told a few friends by this point. My health story and living with an ileostomy bag was a secret I never spoke about, and the stress and tension of withholding that secret was starting to build up. I realised that I felt incomplete in my life. Even though I had success as a coach, no success could ever make up for me not showing up in the world as my true self and using my adversity to create an inspiring message for others.

My Authentic Self 

After months of deliberation I realised I was going to tell my truth. I remember clearly visualising how I was going to tell my health story to the world. I began going to the gym 5 times a week and the vision of inspiring others gave me an immense amount of energy.

 The video was made and ready to go and a nervous me pushed 'publish' on the video on the 26th September 2019.  To date the video has reached over 4 million people! The growth for me was twofold - a combination of the number of people I had inspired, as well as a massive shift of an emotional release within me as I shared my authentic truth.

This sharing of my truth freed myself from years of shame. I realised that by facing my shame head on in an emotionally difficult process, I took back my empowerment over my story and my life. It wasn't long after this that I began to notice massive shifts in me. It uncovered a more authentic version of myself which allowed me to fully grow and evolve into the person and coach I was meant to be.

To Inspire You To Transform Your Life 

Even though a started off being successful as a singing coach, I had to evolve to my next stage of development and potential. It was a difficult transition but one I knew was for the best. After releasing my health story it opened me up completely. All the things I wanted to say but couldn't over the years I could now finally say. I was no longer holding back from all the ways I could coach and inspire people.

My coaching now is to inspire people to transform their lives in some way. Everything I coach for others I have been through and overcome myself. It's coaching through experience. Real life direct experience which has given me insights and wisdom to help others that I believe can't be accessed through theory alone. 

If you are wanting to transform your life in some way, then I can help you. I've done it, and I can help you do it too.